Cheating is something people never really truly forgive and forget. ![]() So what do you end up with-a hyper vigilant existence and a relationship as crooked as a dogs hind leg. They say they tell you every thing, but really.do they? How can you trust what they say when you obviously cant trust what they do? So in essence there is still the potential for being cheated on,just out of the truth. I just don't think you ever get full disclosure from a cheating spouse. You see,IMHO, it is easier for a cheater to push things to the back of their mind and move forward because thats exactly what they want to do- forget it so they feel better about things, ease up on having to feel any guilt etc. It's hardly something you can just will away and will remain in your 'ever present' for a fair while I would imagine. Reader, Ivyblue +, writes (29 January 2016):ĭepends on how long you think you can tolerate re living what you saw. ![]() Yes I no that you love her, but as yourself did she really love you when she was wrapped around another guy? She will just be better at hiding it the next time. If you forgive her, which I really don't think you will be able to, she probably will know then that it is okay to do this time and time again. Did she think about these dangers when she had her lips wrapped around him? No. Maybe a stranger who has an STI or something even worse. Is this your fault? No off course not, if she felt neglected she should have come to you and spoke to you about how she felt, but she didn't she thought she would have some fun with a stranger. Did she think about you? No off course not she just wanted some fun. This wasn't some mistake she made in the heat of the moment, she joined a website in order to cheat on you, she sought out someone who wanted this with someone else who was married. You will never get that image out of your head. Reader, aunt honesty +, writes (29 January 2016): Living with her actions can make you resentful and bitter and that isn't fair on YOU. If you decide that you want to give the marriage a try and make it work, FIND a GOOD couples-counselor and start from there.įorgiveness is important, whether you stay married or not. Whatever you decide, is what you think you can live with. While you might have some blame in her feeling lonely and neglected - she CHOSE to sign up on a website for CHEATING spouses so she could F%^& around. ![]() The next person I'd call would be a divorce lawyer. I don't think someone can really rebuild the loving trust there USED to be after something like this.Īnd how many times have she done this and NOT gotten caught?įor me, personally, if my husband did this, I'd let him pack some bags and GTFO. ![]() It erodes trust and honestly attract/affections towards the cheater and then WHAT do you have? Reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (29 January 2016):Ĭheating is a deal-breaker for me. I think I can forgive her but every time I attempt to kiss her I get disgusted because I know what those lips have been wrapped around already.I don't know what to do.it's a good thing we don't have kids.If we did it would've been even more complicated.She told me everything-how she met that guy(on Ashley Maddison),when they first hooked up,what they did in detail and so on and she deleted his contacts in front of me and swore she'd never use Ashley Maddison again or any other site of that nature ever again.I dont know what to do,it's been nearly 2 weeks since I caught her red handed and ever since that day we haven't slept together in one bed or had any physical contact for that matter.Should I end this?Help pls!įancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! Me and my wife have been married for 12 years now.I never expected this from her.One day when I got home from work I walked in on her giving head to another man.He immediately ran out of the apartment,didn't even have time to get dressed.In our house she dared to do such a disgusting thing.I demanded an explanation straight away and to be honest I don't even know how I found it within me not to beat her up in my anger but anyway she said out of boredom.I love her so I don't want to divorce her but I can't get over this moreover I can't be sure she won't do it again.Maybe part of it is my fault because I have been neglecting our sex life lately but that is not the right way to go about it.She cried a lot,I cried too,it was tough but at the end of the day i love her I walked in on my wife while she was performing oral sex. Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!
0 Comments
Leave a Reply. |
AuthorWrite something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview. ArchivesCategories |